When we were growing up, our experiences in lives, our successes and failures and how people treated us contribute in the way we see ourselves at present. If as children, we were constantly compared to others, we were repeatedly told that we weren’t good enough, or were harshly criticized for being ourselves, thick layers of doubt and insecurity could cloud the way we see ourselves. As we grew old, our doubts and insecurities grew as well. As a result, our feelings and thoughts about ourselves fluctuated, developing more and more fears in us. Because of this, most of us developed a protective mask to hide our fears and insecurities from others…sometimes even from ourselves. Outwardly we may appear confident and content, but deep inside most of us carry loads of unhappiness about who we are and secretly wishing we were somebody else. We act happy and successful, but are really terrified of failure. We wear our masks for the constant fear we would be ‘found out’.
I know it’s not easy to remove this mask. It takes courage to accept our deep-rooted weaknesses and fears. And sometimes, it takes a very long time to do so. It’s hard but not impossible. Inasmuch as we hate ourselves, I believe we were intended to be exactly the way we are. Clichéd as it is, we are all special in our own ways… Sadly, most of us fail to realize that. How do we expect others to accept us if we ourselves cannot? Instead of denying or hiding our fears and insecurities, we must face them. Get to know, accept and love ourselves. We must cultivate our ability to assess ourselves accurately and still be able to accept ourselves unconditionally. Learn to acknowledge our strengths, and accept our weaknesses as a part of being human. Make amends. Forgive others. Forgive ourselves. Ask God for guidance as we explore our inner selves. Bear in mind that we are all special in God’s eyes. We are fearfully and wonderfully made.
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.” Psalm 139: 14