the longest journey begins with a single step

       I don’t consider myself as a cynical or bitter person.  I gush at weddings. I get “kilig” when my friends tell me their love stories. I adore babies. I sigh every time I see a pair of elderly people still together, holding hands just like a teenage couple. I cry at Nicholas Sparks’ heartrending novels. I’m okay with having a Koreanovela marathon all day long.  But still some people (who are close to me) think I’m not a romantic person. In fairness to me, these same people also say that I’m generally a sweet person naman ‘daw’, however, they also say there is something about me… something that exudes an unromantic factor… haha. Are the statements I written above not enough to validate me as a romantic person? Am I not sentimental enough?            

Honestly, I don’t get offended when people say I’m unromantic because at some level, I believe I am. That’s why I can see where they get this impression about me.

(Deep breath)

I’m okay with being single for the rest of my life.  Let me just make it clear; I’m not averse to becoming a wife or a mother in the future. As a matter of fact, one of my dreams is to be become a mother. I really, really want to have my own child someday (hopefully, alongside with a God-fearing husband). But if that dream wouldn’t come true, I have no problem with that. All I’m saying is, I do want to have a family of my own someday… however, if I’m better off single and if –- only if it’s His will for me to stay unmarried for all eternity,  I have no objections with that. Does that fact about me make me unromantic?

 I find “theme song” corny, not to mention, unoriginal and clichéd. When people ask me if I and my then significant other had a ‘song’, I quickly answered NO! (Pleeaassee!) I don’t know if they had a song for me…but I absolutely did not!  Why would I dedicate a song if I could write my very own poem? Yup, I wrote a poem for… never mind! (Well, I tend to be poetic when broken hearted).  Does my aversion toward ‘theme song’ make me unromantic?

I don’t believe in ligaw.  Hey, don’t think I’m easy-to-get ah! Haha…I just don’t believe in that. I’ve always seen it as a best-foot-forward thing. For me, it’s better if you start off as friends, talk, get to know each other, hang out, have fun, mingle with each other’s set of friends or better yet, with each other’s family…etcetera, etcetera. Does my disbelief in ligaw make me unromantic?

I get nauseous every time I see overly sweet (online) photos of couples… you know, the we-can’t-get-enough-of-each-other kind of photos… in Filipino, ‘magkakapalit na ng mukha’ … haha. I find some pictures of couples really cute…but there are some which are just nauseously cute. I mean, come on, there’s a thin line between cute sweetness and sickening sweetness. Haha… (there is also a thin line between sickening sweetness and vulgar!) Does my nausea to this stuff make me unromantic?

I’m not the lovey-dovey touchy type.  I’m normally a huggy touchy person… I embrace my parents, lolo, sister and close friends or give them a kiss whenever I feel like it…But I wasn’t exactly like that to my then special someone. I mean, we didn’t divulge in as much PDA as most people do… And some find it very strange, or rather unbelievable that I personify one of Drew Barrymore’s movies. (hope you have the right movie in mind, haha) I wasn’t being righteously conservative like Maria Clara…  I just had (have) my reservations – for the right time and person. Do my reservations make me unromantic? 

 I don’t like Valentine’s Day. I never celebrated this so called occasion, and I don’t have a recollection of greeting anyone a ‘happy valentine’s day’ sincerely. Haha… Because as I can see it; like Christmas, Valentines also had become commercialized nowadays. You know what I mean? Like Christmas, Valentines Day is all about gift-giving… in Filipino, ‘pinagkakakitaan na lang’. Plus, I just don’t understand why make your special someone feel loved and special for a day if you could make him/her feel that way everyday… Does this notion of mine make me unromantic?